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They are an indication of internal problems.

What exactly do I mean when I say that needs are not inborn? Fundamentally, it means that humans are self-sufficient in terms of essentials such as food, drink, and shelter in our natural form. We are whole, okay, and fine in our authentic state. You may answer, “Sure, we don’t need anything other than food and shelter, but come on.” How does that life function? While relaxing on the couch with my chocolate chip ice cream, I have to watch some Netflix material. I’d be absolutely bored if all I had to do was survive. The argument is that a life without many needs is significantly more meaningful and delightful than a life of Netflix and ice cream. How so?

We require stuff, but why?

Before we proceed, let us ask a simple question: How did our requirements arise? “I don’t know,” for example, would be most people’s first response. I prefer the chocolate cake. Sushi is also available. That is something I appreciate having in my life. Is there really no alternative reason for why those products appeal to me so much? Or even a backstory? We have these needs, according to Buddhism, because our core selves are in poor condition.

“I think I’ll go out for sushi,” to put it another way. That will cheer me up because I’m feeling a little strange right now.It goes without saying that none of this is continually on our minds. We don’t think to ourselves, “I’m feeling down or unfulfilled; let’s go get some sushi to cheer me up. “But that is exactly what is happening.

The ultimate goal is inner tranquillity.

All of this is predicated on what I believe to be the ultimate goal of humans: to acquire inner peace. To arrive at a point when we are normally filled with unshakeable contentment.

Those reading this may disagree with the primary goal. You could argue that, despite the fact that this entails feeling constant inner turmoil the majority of the time, you’d rather a more diverse life filled with thrilling holidays and daring activities. However, I totally agree with the late, respected Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh when he observed, “Many people confuse excitement with happiness.” However, enthusiasm makes remaining calm harder. True happiness is built on the foundation of peace.

The fact that a huge segment of our world prioritizes imposing expectations on others does not help matters. “Get yourself an iPhone 14 Pro,” is the major concern. As a result, your mood will improve.” “By purchasing this ridiculously expensive skin cleanser, you will be able to look as beautiful as this one in a million model…which will make you feel better,” the advertising states. “Read my #1 best-seller Ten Steps to a Thriving Business to ensure your business thrives…and you feel better.” It never ends. Ongoing assault on us. Please accept this. That would be great. It doesn’t, and this is the problem. Yes, for a while. However, the ‘new vehicle scent’ fades and we begin to hunt for other desires to satisfy.

Those with refined, discriminating preferences

There is another difficulty with tastes and being finicky about our choices. You understand what I mean. You’re considering thirty different shades of white for painting your kitchen. Then you get into problems. Why? For the simple reason that it has to be the best…Alternatively, you could go to Nordstrom and try on ten pairs of jeans, studying each pair in their oddly curved mirrors from seven different angles. You work yourself up into a frenzy seeking for the pair that will make your bottom half appear the best. That is the thing that society rewards us for. He has really unique, keen tastes that are quite distinct. I adore that aspect of him.

Do you have a favorite flavor or are you neurotic?

Under the hood, though, you’ll find someone stating, “I’m not going to be okay unless this car/paint color/wine satisfies my stringent, particular tastes.” It indicates that the outside must be a specific way for me to be happy on the inside. It fails yet again. If desires aren’t natural, what is, and how can we get back there? Our natural condition is one of upward-flowing energy, which rewards us with unmistakable happiness.

Getting back to nature

How can we re-create that condition?First and foremost, we do not denigrate ourselves for having many wants.We do not degrade ourselves.Because the degree of these needs varies for each of us, berating ourselves for having them is pointless.It has no positive consequences.Second, we make no attempt to manage our needs. Because needs are not natural, we do not state them.They are the product of my internal pain.So, instead of ice cream, let’s watch Succession on HBO.

Root-cause investigation

Buddhists advocate starting from the ground up. If you tried to restrain your needs, work on the leaves on the branches. There are only symptoms, not genuine requirements. As an example, consider the leaves. How might the root causes be addressed? Investigating why we don’t feel good on the inside.

Why don’t we feel nice on the inside?

So, why aren’t we safe inside? On this, I adhere to Mickey Singer’s beliefs. We have clung to a lot of life events, both good and bad, but mostly bad, and as a result, we are not okay on the inside. something we clung onto when they happened. As a result, there is a tremendous quantity of blocked energy within. How can we let go of that power? When that happens, we relax and let everything go. equivalent to?

The takeaway – If there is one thing to remember from this post, it should be to think about your own requirements. Never berate yourself. Alternatively, be cruel. Just have a look at it. The first step on the spiritual path is always awareness.